Many mothers of the bride and groom are concerned about what they should wear to their children’s wedding. Before choosing their outfits, it’s wise for the mothers to discuss (with each other and with the bride), the colours and styles they will be wearing — bearing in mind that it is inappropriate for either to wear a white or cream outfit.

They must obviously also be careful not to upstage the bride in any way. When making their choices, they should take into consideration the colours the bridesmaids will be wearing as well. I always advise the mothers to take a sample of the fabric of the bridesmaids’ dresses with them when choosing their own outfits, to ensure that the colours do not clash in any way.

As your offspring’s wedding is a very special occasion, it is well worth investing in a specially made garment, instead of buying one off the peg. I have heard stories of mothers faced with the embarrassing situation of arriving at the wedding wearing the same outfit as a wedding guest.

What the newly-engaged couple need more than anything during the engagement period is the loving support and guidance of their parents, and it goes without saying that a lot of diplomacy and tact is often required. The Dale Carnegie three C’s formula — don’t criticise, condemn or complain — works wonders when dealing with an emotional bride or groom.